I am a 29 year old married woman who hails from Melbourne, Australia.
I have been married just over 3 years to a handsome Welsh hunk. We have two sausage dogs together, and I am very much NOT maternal.
The question is ladies, to wear or not wear the rings??
I have a job interview on Thursday. It’s for an advisory role working with Home and Community Care Packages. Do I have the qualifications, yes. Do I have the experience, yes. Do I have all relevant checks, yes.
My issue is not my confidence, experience, or actually anything relating to the job in question, my biggest debate going on in my head is whether or not to wear my wedding rings….
You see, my last role I sat across from the CEO in my interview and all was going well. I build rapport easily, so conversation was flowing and I was genuinely attracted to the prospects of this role. Half way through the interview this is where I was completely thrown:
CEO: ‘I see you wearing wedding rings. Are you married?’
Me: *a little thrown but hey I rolled with it* ‘Yes I am.’
CEO: ‘Are you planning on having babies any time soon?’
Me: *inner monologue sounded a little like…WTF, she actually just asked me that, do I lie, what do I say, I want this job, or do I? Fuckkkkkkkk*
‘No we aren’t planning on having children anytime soon’. (this was not a lie, but more what happened if i accidentally fell pregnant/changed my mind?)
CEO: ‘Good I want someone for at least 5 years, I don’t want any more babies or pregnancies in this office’.
Me: ummmm ok.
I left the interview feeling really down and completely thrown. As a white, straight female, I can 100% say I am privileged. I do not get discriminated against like some of my friends. For me, this would have to be one of the first times in my life I felt I was being judged purely due to my age and marital status.
I get it. I am of child rearing age, AND I am married.
My question to you is, what do you think?
Should I wear the rings or not?
I actually would love some opinions.
I don’t want to lie. The honest truth is Glyn and I do not know when we want kids. I am proud to be married. I also want to keep my personal life separate to my work life. Let me know your thoughts?